Polite to reply even if not interested

I am interested in views regarding replying to messages. I believe in replying even if not interested it doesn't take much time to say thanks for your interest but it's not what we are looking for ! I guess if I was a hot woman or couple it would not be an issue lol . But older single guys I think deserve a reply even if it's fuck off lol

Completely agree with your sentiment. If the enquiry is genuine (not a Wink, nor a mere 'hey') then I'll respond. Even if the response is thanks but no thanks.

Well done you .politeness cost nothing

Actually politeness does cost.

I've sent No Thankyou messages back and have been insulted and abused for it.

I've had my polite response ignored and further, more insistent requests sent to me.

While I appreciate the sentiment, and agree that a response either way would be ideal, do consider taking no message back after yours was read, as a full and complete response.

I understand your point .and I guess you are inundated with messages being a single woman . I meant my comment as a general response which I agree is not suitable in some cases but generally I guess I am of a generation used to politeness. Thank you for your reply have a great day

Depends on the circumstances... As an example, if a couple has stated no single males and made that very clear in their bio.. Then receive messages from guys still trying it on.. I wouldn't bother replying! They'll soon work it out, if they don't a block will soon help them understand 😂

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Depends on the circumstances... As an example, if a couple has stated no single males and made that very clear in their bio.. Then receive messages from guys still trying it on.. I wouldn't bother replying! They'll soon work it out, if they don't a block will soon help them understand 😂

Exactly. Disrespectful people do not deserve a reply.

We have a tendency to respond to genuine messages, and if we get nonsense back, we use the block feature then. Usually people who send an introduction, even if its copy/paste, will be more polite at a rejection.

How would you politely reply to this message we got at 3am this morning? This is the reason why people dont always reply to every message.

"Morning. How's your night been? I saw you were online looked up ur pics and dam ur hast as mum. I got hard thinking about your sweetholes been used"

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How would you politely reply to this message we got at 3am this morning? This is the reason why people dont always reply to every message.

"Morning. How's your night been? I saw you were online looked up ur pics and dam ur hast as mum. I got hard thinking about your sweetholes been used"

This.

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How would you politely reply to this message we got at 3am this morning? This is the reason why people dont always reply to every message.

"Morning. How's your night been? I saw you were online looked up ur pics and dam ur hast as mum. I got hard thinking about your sweetholes been used"

The kind of nonsense that isn't worthy of a reply. For us, we reply to maybe 1 in 4 messages, because the rest usually follow the pattern "[Odd opening]. [Crude compliment]."

Wonder if that guy minds if I borrow that?!? I kinda like the way he worked “sweetholes” into a sentence. I sense quite a bit of positive play with that one………. 🙄 😉

Point taken lol

KS has shown to me It's not so much a matter of manners or being polite why many ignore but knowing that any reply is a reply and to those initiating, a green flag to engage. A cock pic or a scenario about what they are capable n wanting to do, (usually to wet....😜) is not to far behind your polite no, why ignored

If not busy I reply or try to reply to everyone as I enjoy chatting. More about the lifestyle itself as opposed to abilities, that comes much later. In closing 🤣maumahara ai,

"The lifestyle is full of opportunities not obligations"

Interesting to read from a single female or couple point of view

It is disappointing to read profiles fully, write out a respectful message showing interest but being polite and genuinely interested in what you see in a profile only to never get a response.

It’s easy to think that people (profiles) that get a lot of attention become arrogant and entitled. Personally I feel some are definitely this way from my own experiences.

I understand why people get pissed off with dumb arse messages that are in many ways not even worth reading but why do so many people ignore well written thoughtful messages??

While I’d love a nice response - even in the negative - to a well-crafted (IMO) targeted message… it just shouldn’t be an expectation. Maybe the couple or SF has 10-15 of said messages waiting for them every time they log on? Reading and responding to all of those message and now they have little time to browse and perv and do all the stuff they got onto KS for in the first place. I just move on and do my things… and maybe next time things will go differently. “No response” to a read message is most definitely a response. Of course, that’s just my two cents. Everyone interacts with this site differently…. Cheers.

I think I was angling more towards the 1 liners pmed in chat that are ignored and possibly why. In respect to the thought out messages sent to persons from whoever after readi g profiles etc then yeah they deserve a reply of some sort. The fact it shows they have been read doesnt help.

If I send a message to someone, and they read it but don't respond, I just move on. I don't expect that they spend their time responding, in any way, when reading and not responding gives just as much of an answer as any "No thanks" message.

Don't have expectations, then they're rarely disappointed. Certainly don't thrust those expectations onto others you haven't met!

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If I send a message to someone, and they read it but don't respond, I just move on. I don't expect that they spend their time responding, in any way, when reading and not responding gives just as much of an answer as any "No thanks" message.

Don't have expectations, then they're rarely disappointed. Certainly don't thrust those expectations onto others you haven't met!

Yes I guess you are right there. I am a bit old school where a reply is expected in normal day to day goings as the polite thing to do but yes messaging without expectations is good advice

Mr White see your point

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Interesting to read from a single female or couple point of view

It is disappointing to read profiles fully, write out a respectful message showing interest but being polite and genuinely interested in what you see in a profile only to never get a response.

It’s easy to think that people (profiles) that get a lot of attention become arrogant and entitled. Personally I feel some are definitely this way from my own experiences.

I understand why people get pissed off with dumb arse messages that are in many ways not even worth reading but why do so many people ignore well written thoughtful messages??

If we ever received a well written thoughtful message I would definitely reply with an equally well written message, even if it was from a single male. But after being on here 10 years now I cannot recall ever having received one.

Back in the day when we were looking for a single guy we got this for a message.

"You don't want much do you. In a way with demanding profiles like yours. I hope you do get fucked around. It's quite rude and you deserve the same back"

Seems this guy took offence at the way we had written our profile, you single guys are not helping each other on here.

I see quite a bit of approaches:activity by SM’s on KS (and hear about it) that reflect negatively to the single male persona. But then again, anyone actually interested in incorporating a single:solo guy into their fun should obviously realise that everyone human being is different. That’s why I don’t really care what other SM’s are doing on this site… because there are plenty of sexy and fun couples who will find ways to discover the type of sexual partner they are seeking. I’m a bit sad if some people have totally excluded SM’s because of the a$$hatery of others. But I can certainly get why that happens. Especially after receiving an email in which the sole purpose is to crap on somebody’s day. That kind of person isn’t mature enough for nice things.

Interesting comment . I guess being a single male on here limits chances particularly older ones . But I believe we still have something to offer couples looking for mmf . I haven't received any messages crapping on my day but it is a little irritating when you are ignored by couples seeking a single male lol . I would rather be told fuck off you old git at least you can move on with a laugh.

I hear you loud and clear. I’m also a tad disappointed when even a polite “no thanks” email isn’t a response to a (IMO) fairly thought out and personalised message. I do lose a bit of faith in humanity when that happens 😝. But I get why it happens, and don’t expect it at all. Trust me, KS is still a waaaay more welcoming environment than a few of the US Lifestyle sites. But keep persisting… and honestly, in my experience on here, once that first vouch come in it gets a slight bit more easy. I know you aren’t asking for suggestions… but may I suggest (🤣) trying to get invited to Meet&Greet. Non-sex environment where you can hopefully meet a couple who will vouch that you are an actual human being who is here to meet people. Even the non-bedroom vouches can go a long way with some profiles.

Having vouches on your profile as a SM is a definite bonus. We only play with Single guys, we are not really interested in couples yet we have on our profile for them not to contact us. We will always make the initial approach when a SM profile perks our interest and that is normally because a) they don't have any dick pics on public display and b) because they have at least one vouch.

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Having vouches on your profile as a SM is a definite bonus. We only play with Single guys, we are not really interested in couples yet we have on our profile for them not to contact us. We will always make the initial approach when a SM profile perks our interest and that is normally because a) they don't have any dick pics on public display and b) because they have at least one vouch.

Thanks for commenting understand your point of view . Lol my dick pics are my only redeeming feature. I don't have a vouch from my only meet so far but the lovely lady put a nice comment on my wall . I am realistic enough to know that not many couples will be interested in someone my age and without partner to interest them but I live in hope lol . I am confident I can hold a conversation and there is more to me than a cock but confidentiality is important to me. You have a great day .

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Thanks for commenting understand your point of view . Lol my dick pics are my only redeeming feature. I don't have a vouch from my only meet so far but the lovely lady put a nice comment on my wall . I am realistic enough to know that not many couples will be interested in someone my age and without partner to interest them but I live in hope lol . I am confident I can hold a conversation and there is more to me than a cock but confidentiality is important to me. You have a great day .

Fair call. But at 69 you are old enough to be the father, or even the grandfather of most couples on here. I wish you the best of opportunities.

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Thanks for commenting understand your point of view . Lol my dick pics are my only redeeming feature. ...

Men put such emphasis on their penis, perhaps my opinion is in the minority but I don't see why, no offense to anyone but the genitals aren't as interesting as the banter, a stimulating conversation, a desire to enjoy mutual fun... 🤷‍♀️

I couldn’t agree more . I like my’ bits’ but I’m not about to think showing them is to go very far but then maybe I’m a sapiosexual kinda guy. Intelligence is sexy