Dick pics

KS profiles for couples and single ladies show a good variety of pics of her. Body, legs, breasts and genitals.

Why, oh why, are most of the pics of the guys - in couples or singles - their cocks?

Surely guys don't think that's all women want to look at? I certainly want to see more than just a cock on a profile to consider making contact!

Any thoughts on why this is?

Also, just to muddy the waters a bit, why do some men feel its OK to start a conversation with, "hi, here's my penis"?????

Quote by Daisyppp

Any thoughts on why this is?


.... because they're proud of what they're offering; and think that because they want to see genitals, that we women would want to see genitals too.

As for the "hey" followed by intimate pictures... all I can say guys: if you wouldn't flash it in public, don't flash it in chat either (unless requested to do so).

Can I add too... single male profiles that have a collection of photos, showing themselves 'having fun' with other females, really puts me off enquiring further. Do they have permission from the other girl? What if I'm not as slim and gorgeous as the 'other women' they've played with. Should I bother making contact when I clearly don't stack up against those photos shared?

Here is a different thought: 'on why this is'?

Phallic Art has been part of millenniums of culture, fertility symbols, worship and so forth. Likewise, female genitalia, large breasts and other symbols of female fertility have featured in the same cultures. Perhaps' then some males feel the need to show fertility via 'dick pics' as their response to a subliminal historic cultural trigger of showing masculine fertility. In otherwords, it is ingrained within their own needs to impress on others their virility, in ways little understood by themselves... just as some females seemingly feel the need to display pics of their naked or partly exposed breasts female genitalia to impress on others their fertility.

While what one chooses to display in media or not is one's choice; I do agree sending unsolicited genitalia posting to anyone's message box is not really going to achieve anything positive though. I don't see how it could impress the recipient to want to partake in a swinging lifestyle. But that is only my opinion and personal position.

I do enjoy looking in the gallery. I'll admit sometimes just for the 'perve' value. But my eye is drawn to good photography, clever lighting, innovative angles etc as evidence of a well thought out idea of what to present. Some are even worthy of the term 'art'. I try and do some interesting shots myself.... but tend to keep them in my private albums, occasionally putting one in my public gallery if my mood makes me want to change my gallery.

But, being an older person maybe my idea of what is culturally (un)acceptable is different from the current generation(s) entering the swinging lifestyle. Perhaps the unsolicited 'dick pic' sender is just another manifestation of the ingrained through history need to promote one's fertility; that is, a modern digital age version of phallic art.

Anyway, I thought I would try an approach to answering your question Daisyppp that is a bit of a different idea to those normally responding to this frequent topic.

Very erudite I am sure but maybe it's just with us old buggers our cocks are our only redeeming feature lol. And it shows we can still get it up lol. All joking aside I do get Daisy' point and fair enough she has a valid opinion . On sites like this you are always going to get dick pics some guys get off on showing and some of the user names that go with them amuse me things like well hung stud etc . Being older and single it's a pain people don't see past age and body image but that's the way life is everywhere so just deal with it lol. Honeys like Daisy are in position of power on here because we all think with our dicks and good on them it's the one area women are not only equal but hold the whip hand some literally. Lol

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" ...it's just with us old buggers our cocks are our only redeeming feature..."

I disagree here, the cock isn't - in my opinion anyway - the best feature of a man.

For many women, the banter and buildup are important, the intellectual stimulation, physical environment setup, context, anticipation, touch, taste, foreplay, all are actually more stimulating than penile penetration, as lovely as that is.

I'm sure there'll be stats to demonstrate this for anyone inclined to look it up, lol, but many women get off with oral or digital or other stimulation rather than PIV. Happy to research further, for science... 😉

Of course, if the man in question is more interested in their own happy ending than in maximizing the experience for their play partner, that's all moot, isn't it. 🤔

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"...Perhaps' then some males feel the need to show fertility via 'dick pics' ... ingrained within their own needs to impress on others their virility..."

This makes a lot of sense.

Many of us are here meeting unfulfilled needs, sexual mainly but not exclusively, and we all play up our (perceived) strengths.

"... good photography, clever lighting, innovative angles etc as evidence of a well thought out idea of what to present. Some are even worthy of the term 'art'... "

Yes, this! So many incredibly talented artists both behind and in front of the camera, makes the nine angles of one dick or background piles of laundry seem less impressive! 🤷‍♀️🤣

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"...Can I add too... single male profiles that have a collection of photos, showing themselves 'having fun' with other females, really puts me off enquiring further. Do they have permission from the other girl? What if I'm not as slim and gorgeous as the 'other women' they've played with. Should I bother making contact when I clearly don't stack up against those photos shared?"

One of the fabulous things about the people on this site is that we're all so deliciously different.

Beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder, and isn't nearly as narrowly defined in practice as it is in the media.

A gorgeous woman is gorgeous no matter if they're more or less slim, busty, tall or otherwise than the previous play partner.

Some of us have preferred "types" 🤷‍♀️ but that doesn't preclude an awesomely sexy and satisfying experience with someone who isn't in that tight window of physical characteristics, and it certainly doesn't guarantee same simply because they are.

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One of the fabulous things about the people on this site is that we're all so deliciously different.

Beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder, and isn't nearly as narrowly defined in practice as it is in the media.

A gorgeous woman is gorgeous no matter if they're more or less slim, busty, tall or otherwise than the previous play partner.

Amen. And applies to 'handsome' men too.

I won’t fault people for what they put on THEIR profile. They paid for it (or not, I suppose) so if they want to post tons of penis photos… go for it. Obviously I’m probably not the target audience, but I totally get where couples and SF are turned off by those profiles. However, maybe said SM (or male half of a couple) gets the type of response from the kind of people they prefer, and who am I judge anyone on that.

That being said… totally agree with the messages that start off with an unsolicited cock. Honestly, I occasionally get a message that starts off with an unsolicited pussy shot and it’s not something I enjoy. And I think those offenders should be told that’s inappropriate behaviour… even for a Lifestyle site. I have a friend that enjoys giving these types of email responds a bit of an etiquette lesson.

As far as photos go… I understand some people don’t like seeing other females on a SM profile. Again, fair enough and to each their own. Discussed this a few times on other forum threads.

All I can say is that I (personally) address this issue in my profile description. All photos on my site have been generously approved by said participants, and those participants are usually a bit the exhibitionist as I am.

IMO… a SM needs something that sets them apart from the masses. For me, these photos confirm that I’m here to meet people and have fun. And I’m willing to accept that while it may turn some people off… it will turn some people on. 😏

I used to “assume” that certain couples were “too attractive” to possibly be interested in me. 50+ with a bit of a dad bod, etc etc. And then I realised that I was stereotyping then and just assuming they were potentially superficial because of their awesome genetics or dedication (me?? I just love food and champagne too much).

Now we all have types and we all have things that probably aren’t going to be sexually attractive to us… but I’ve stopped assuming this and I’ve been very fortunate to find many a cool couple who are looking for things other than that washboard abs or 9-inch cock.

Sure..: some of these couples will inform me I’m outside their range of what they find attractive. And sure that stings on occasion, but then you move on and find that next potential connection.

Quote by Daisyppp

Beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder, and isn't nearly as narrowly defined in practice as it is in the media.

Some of us have preferred "types" 🤷‍♀️ but that doesn't preclude an awesomely sexy and satisfying experience with someone who isn't in that tight window of physical characteristics, and it certainly doesn't guarantee same simply because they are.

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"...maybe said SM (or male half of a couple) gets the type of response from the kind of people they prefer, and who am I judge anyone on that...."

Fair point.

If the images displayed attract the intended audience, that'd be considered a success!

"... I think those offenders should be told that’s inappropriate behaviour… even for a Lifestyle site. I have a friend that enjoys giving these types of email responds a bit of an etiquette lesson..."

Nice, perhaps I'll do this instead of simply blocking those people who send me unsolicited dick pics.

I'll have to consider if it's worth the effort or not, given I usually have this warning in my profile.

"Sure..: some of these couples will inform me I’m outside their range of what they find attractive. And sure that stings on occasion, but then you move on and find that next potential connection"

Yes. This. We can't be all things to all people, and that's OK.

Etiquette lessons first.

Blocking second. 😉🤣

Lol if they haven't bothered to read my profile re UDPs, they probably won't heed any unsolicited etiquette lessons! 🤣

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As far as photos go… I understand some people don’t like seeing other females on a SM profile. Again, fair enough and to each their own. Discussed this a few times on other forum threads.

All I can say is that I (personally) address this issue in my profile description. All photos on my site have been generously approved by said participants, and those participants are usually a bit the exhibitionist as I am.

IMO… a SM needs something that sets them apart from the masses. For me, these photos confirm that I’m here to meet people and have fun. And I’m willing to accept that while it may turn some people off… it will turn some people on. 😏

We think its just a trophy photo, a look at me and how wonderful I am, its not that appealing really, bit like the guys with big fish photos lol. Men want to attract single ladies or couples will soon realise that cock photos and photos taken with other women will not get them a chance with us.

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We think its just a trophy photo, a look at me and how wonderful I am, its not that appealing really, bit like the guys with big fish photos lol. Men want to attract single ladies or couples will soon realise that cock photos and photos taken with other women will not get them a chance with us.

Wow thats a view from another perspective again!

So one perspective is that SM profiles have to stand out, so use images of women to demonstrate their interests and desirability, to gain attention against a backdrop of many other SM profiles.

This view is that this attention seeking is unattractive, and has the opposite effect than intended.

Haha aren't people interesting!

As I mentioned. Some doors close with my approach, some doors open. I’ve been extremely fortunately and happy with the opened doors.

Probably no different than when profiles stated they were vaccinated and when some profiles states they were clearly NOT vaccinated. Or - as what started this thread - the profiles with 50 shots of a penis on then, or the couples profile with ONLY photos of the wife, etc etc. Hell, I’ve heard that even a SF profile with no photos gets a rash of emails whenever one pops up.

Good thing there’s “over 150,000 members in New Zealand” per KiwiSwingers login page! 😝😉😊

Enough for everyone!!

Enough for everyone, yay for sharing! 🤣

They just don't mention that 149,000 of them have not logged in for over 12 months. 🤣🤣🤣

Or I've logged in 149,000 times in 12 months 🤣

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Or I've logged in 149,000 times in 12 months 🤣

That's only around 400x / day, lol, doable with dedication 😉🤣🤣

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That's only around 400x / day, lol, doable with dedication 😉🤣🤣

Dedicated hyperbole is indeed dedicated to a cause. What could be more dedicated in this context than KS? 😅🤣😂

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Haha aren't people interesting!

That they are but I have been a single guy on (at least 14 years) here till I met my lovely girlfriend, Sometimes it is better to just keep things under wraps. Specially the cock photos. Not once did I have a cock photo on show or more a photo of me with another woman. I have spoken with enough single women and couples in my past to know that it is just the guys ego and pride, that and to attract other guys. Enough bi men on here now to get into cock photos.

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"...I have been a single guy on (at least 14 years) here ... it is just the guys ego and pride, that and to attract other guys. Enough bi men on here now to get into cock photos."

You're not a fan of single men, having been one on this site for a long time...?

Are you suggesting that men put cock pics on their profiles to attract other men?

Why do you think that?

I don't have a cock pic on here but have no issues if guys want to send them to me. Do love a nice cock photo 😉

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You're not a fan of single men, having been one on this site for a long time...?

Are you suggesting that men put cock pics on their profiles to attract other men?

Why do you think that?

We tried to entertain single guys at first on here for mfm. We had a few rules around that.

Most guys either didn't read them or thought they would be above them. Very eye opening as when single would always read a profile to see where I might have fitted in.

With so many men being bi now cock pics would be a way to attract a bi hubby or at least get some action.

Ergocog Its an interesting response . As someone of similar age I fully understand. However I am one of the guilty ones my profile is all dick pics mainly due to not wanting to get caught by anyone recognising me and mainly because as a chubby bald old guy my dick is my only redeeming feature lol. Sadly I cannot photograph my cheerful kind and considerate personality , my honesty , my sense of humour self depreciating as it is . I cannot photograph my desire to always please my sexual partners and consider myself a reasonably nice guy . In saying all that I have changed my mind and will likely change my profile after some really good replies from Daisy and others which have put my being on here into perspective. Attraction despite some opinions is mainly defined by looks I suppose the trick is finding a way get prospective sex partners to see beyond age body etc . I don't have much confidence in being able to do that lol. Still I showed some dick pics it could of been worse I could have had a user name like studmuffin, bigboy , or Adonis FFS . To any ladies I have offended please accept my heartfelt apologies.

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Also, just to muddy the waters a bit, why do some men feel its OK to start a conversation with, "hi, here's my penis"?????

Man and Woman are wired diffrently we all agree on that also in the point of reciving informations and sending them. not every man is the same of course but I admit I love the woman body, boobs, Face, vagina, bum. seeing that a lot of men react in the same phisical way in showing their own goods not thinking that women might like to see diffrent things, sholders, back or hands something women feel very attracted to. as we are wired diffrent we act a diffrent way too and many men like to show off their cock in hope that is the tipping point a woman desides weither or not she wants to have a go with him.

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... many men like to show off their cock in hope that is the tipping point a woman desides weither or not she wants to have a go with him.

Lol yes, that'll tip it for me!

Probably not in the direction they want! 🤣

Came across this podcast: Dick Pics : The History so of course I had to listen! 😉