Yeah... this is not a double entendre, but actually a statement of audience participation.  But we will get to that part later.

For starters, I'd like to pose a question to the audience. What's the required minimum number of participants for a gangbang?  How many girls are required for the guy, or how many guys are required for the girl?  More than happy to hear about the thoughts of the readers, but I certainly have my idea on the numbers game.  But I'll save my thoughts until I hear what BLUERAE has to say on that matter.

As a bit of introduction, I met BLUERAE over a year ago and I've very much enjoyed our friendship and fun.  I'm super happy that I decided to reach out to her and also super happy that I demonstrated proper grammar and spelling skills which was a key factor in my getting a first dinner date. As one can tell from her photos, she's quite sexy and has - IMO - thrived in this arena since dipping her toes in the waters.  I was asked by her and her partner if I might be able to put together a multiple-cock scenario as part of their fantasy bucket list so-to-speak.  Sort of a "sensual gangbang"... a phrase that I am working hard to Trademark!

I do enjoy planning things and have - with assistance - put together a small hotel meet and a small hotel party.  But never a gangbang.  I've heard stories on how difficult these things can be to pull off and all the cliches that come with putting one together.  But CHALLANGE ACCEPTED and we started comparing calendars so we could find the date.

SJJL71 is like my LS bestie. I met him via KS fairly early on in my introduction to all things swinging and, well, he’s the benchmark for me when it comes to Single and Solo Males.  It’s a high quality benchmark so any fella reading this…settle in, you could learn a whole lot on how to woo a woman from this guy. Before I go into too much depth, I am partnered to the (IMO) sexiest guy, someone who also knows how to communicate with a female …. But S is my partner in crime for all things group play.

And he loves to plan fun events! While this gangbang was by far the most extreme event on my short lived swinging calendar to date, he did organize a deliciously sexy MFM 30th December 2022. But that’s a whole other story…

When I first dipped my toes in the water of swinging, the last place I ever thought I would feel at home is group play. But my first visit to CCK changed all that. Turns out, like S, I too am somewhat of an exhibitionist. 

Somehow in mid July through our frequent weekly messaging it came about that we should find a date for another MFM. And I pushed the limit slightly and suggested he bring along 2-3 other guys. Because our first MFM at the Hilton was so damn hotter-than-hell, let’s bring another guy into the mix. And that was all the encouragement S needed. He was off organizing a gangbang.

I had never actually watched a GB on any porn site. And I wasn’t about to. All I knew is that I did not want it to be rough as all hell. Now, I am partial to some impact play so I am no pillow princess. But I also like to be adored and fawned over during play. And, um, well, I like to please a man with my mouth. Right from the beginning of planning I was clear that this GB was to be fun, playful and somewhat sensual. 

I had no idea what the actual definition of a gangbang was. Is there a particular number of people required?  To me, anything over an MFM is a gangbang. When S said he had invited 5 guys I thought, ok, I can handle 5 cocks… But 5 was not our final number.  Read on…

Now that the introductions are out of the way, I’ll answer my initial question. In my opinion, a gangbang needs to have enough people to supersaturate the gangbangee.  So for me that means at least 4 males for a female and at least 3 girls for a guy.  So in this case, when that 4th guy potentially starts watching or participating from the periphery then we have ourselves a GANGBANG.

But what’s in a number?  How many guys could I possibly get for this, and how many might be TOO many for my friend?  Especially for a friend who’s only really experienced a few MFM’s (excluding a brief bit of FMFMF fun at CCK).

I’ve heard from a few other swinger friends (and the occasional podcast) that gangbangs are notoriously difficult to pull off.  Especially since I don’t hang out with or know many single males, and most of the couples I know in the scene aren’t the kind to loan out the Mr for a bit of fun like this.  My goal was to have five cocks at the minimum and the presence of a fluffer would be ideal.  So how to find these guys?

First… I did ask my couple and female friends if they had any recommendations for what I  might be looking for.  There were a few suggestions but none panned out.  For many single males this wasn’t their flavor of fun.  I totally get that as this is not my typical play setting… but I was on a mission for a good friend and being a participant in a gangbang was on my bucket list as well.  There was one guy who was recommended by a few friends but he was going to be out of town that weekend.  But maybe he will be in town and available for the next one.  

Next step… maybe find a few guys who have done this before.  There are a few Gangbang Groups on KS so I thought I’d have a gander on the Auckland Gangbangs group page.  Criteria was: photos, at least one vouch, and preferably a paid member.  Bonus points for actual photos of a gangbang in your albums!  Clearly, this ruled out many of the guys in the group.  But found a few who were potential candidates… and now let the Cold-Calling emails begin…

To single guys.  From a single guy.  Neither of whom know each other.  Sigh.

And while he was doing all the background work I was simply wondering what to wear?  If you have looked at my profile you will be able to tell I like lingerie. Feminine and sexy at that. It’s all part of the visual tease. But what to wear??

I immediately thought “crotchless knickers!” I mean, who doesn’t love a sexy pair of naughty knickers. It’s so hot being fucked while wearing panties. As it happens I do have several pairs… but nothing that matches a sexy bra. And I am a stickler for detail and wearing mis-matching garments when it comes to lingerie is an absolute mind fuck for this gal. 

I checked in with my partner. He being the biggest fan of my lingerie and knowing what a) shows me off perfectly and b) works well while playing with me. He was all for the crotchless idea. Not surprising. He’s been on the receiving end of several delicious play sessions with said knickers.

I also consulted with S - he has been privy to actual live play of me in lingerie and he gave me his suggestion. When it comes to play I am a pleaser. I want to be wanted and adored but I love putting in the work ahead of time. So the outfit was a big focus for me. 

The end result: a simple black set. Because of my curves I’ve been told I wear a g-string well. If you head to my profile you might be able to figure out the set I chose. I feel super sexy in it and confidence is key in any play setting, particularly one that involves a not for the faint hearted number of men.

“Hi.  You don’t know me.  But I saw that you list “gangbangs” in the INTERESTS section on your profile.  I’m looking for guys who might be keen on assisting with a gangbang fantasy for a friend of mine………..”

Actually, I’m surprised I got a fair amount of email responses to that.  About half the emails (and some messages were directed to the male half of a couple) didn’t reply, but about half did.  Two guys were pretty quick to commit although one needed to cancel before the event took place; but I received ample warning and was able to find a replacemebt.  But slowly and surely I was able to corral a couple of guys.  Of course, showing them the profile of the female helped immensely, and for those who would communicate via KIK or WhatsApp, there were a few more approved photos from BLUERAE to help seal the deal.  The only request I asked of the guys was that they could check out her profile… but not to reach out to her.  She didn’t want to know who was coming or how many…just that I was hoping to obtain a critical mass of cocks for her fantasy to be fulfilled.

Like I had heard from others, getting those last few commitments were a bit touch and go… but in the end, every guy who said they would be there - showed up and showed up on time.  But we will get to that a bit later…

Once it seemed pretty likely that I was going to get at least four other guys to assist me, I started getting a bit cocky; one of the guys was even bringing his partner who wanted to act as the fluffer… so I just let my imagination run a bit wild.

It’s no secret (for those who read profiles) that BLUERAE has been dabbling a bit with the female persuasion - flashback to our initial fun at CCK for this development - so maybe I could find a female who would be keen on assisting.  So I decided to put an advert out for a female who might be willing to assist as well with the only requirement being BYOS; bring your own strap-on.  This female was going to be “one-of-the-guys” but otherwise participate as she wanted.

Literally within a few hours of posting this advert, I had heard from an enthusiastic Mrs who was half of a couple.  Mrs X was super excited to be a part and just needed to know what size of strap-on to bring.  Haha… I hadn’t even thought of that.  So I said, “Uh, bring one that’s got a normal sized dildo attachment”.  Literally the first time I’d ever uttered those words before.  Mrs X asked if Mr X could come and watch, it wasn’t required that he be allowed to participate.  But hell… just easily added one more M to the gangbang list!  How easy is this?!?

Prior to the actual evening, S and I had a lot of messages. And a couple of coffee dates to go over ideas, expectations and intentions. On one particular catch up I showed him a couple of single male profiles that had viewed my profile. Guys that I liked the look of so he could decide if he wanted to make contact. It was me that said I did not want to know who was on the guest list. I. Love. Surprises! 

During the planning I received a stock standard copy & paste message from a single guy. The message included the profile name of his friend as they were looking for a female to participate in a MFM. I went to the other profile and there was a Vouch for the guy, in relation to a gang bang! Boom we have another possible. I took a screenshot and sent it to S. It wasn’t until the night of the party that I was told this particular sequence of messages had in fact worked out well. One of the party guests was found via the random message I had received from a single guy. That was all the admin I had to do. 

Ok so S was doing ALL the admin. And I was shopping for lingerie…. And condoms, lube, champagne, gin, mixers and breath mints. All the essentials for a party right?! It was at a coffee catch up the week prior to the party that he gave me my shopping list of essentials. Just two people casually sitting in a window seat at a cafe, browsing a local swingers site and discussing how many condoms we should have - FYI he said 36, I thought 24.  My partner said 36 and actually gave me a 3rd box to bring the total to 36. I returned home with 18. Do the math.

The other essential item on the list was my favourite play toy ever… a blindfold. The first time S had arranged an MFM he supplied the blindfold. Again, I had no idea who was turning up. Actually I had no idea he was bringing a blindfold! I’m no stranger to one but S and I hadn’t actually discussed it. But, as I mentioned before… I. Love. Surprises. 

Finally, the Saturday date was here.  The suite at the Cordis was booked.  I had four single guys who were committed to attending the gangbang and I really felt they would all show. I had a sexy female who was keen on acting as the fluffer.  I had a female who was strap-on qualified and ready to add her presence AND she was bringing an extra guy.  Things were lining up to be an epic evening for BLUERAE….. 

Let me tell you, a lot goes into planning and getting ready for a play date as a female. Whether it’s with one other person or multiples. For me, most of the fun is in the planning and the getting ready. Choosing the lingerie, planning the day, some flirty texts the day or so prior. Hair, make up, packing the pull along suitcase with all the drinks, lube, condoms. Yep when the Uber arrived I actually looked like I was in fact staying the weekend at the Cordis. Nope. Just items for a gangbang in my trolley bag.

In the Uber on the way to the hotel I was talking on the phone to my partner. He had just finished work. Trying to keep that conversation PG in the back of the Uber was not easy at all. I arrived at the hotel just as S was also exiting an Uber. He was carrying just a backpack? Men travel so light.