I am European and a decent guy. I can host. I'm clean. I'm safe, and I'm well endowed for those who care. I'm sapiosexual and legitimately heteroflexible (can have genuine fun with guys but I don't actively seek them out). I'm educated and a nerd. I have a lot of zest for life and I can't squeeze enough juice out of it. Related, my biggest vice is getting enough sleep and letting go from wanting to do things.

I'm a person with big dreams. One of them is a simple one, but it is a powerful and subtle undercurrent in my life, that is, to live an ordinary life and have a home (this arises from a tough childhood and anything but a normal upbringing). Having endured a tough and complex childhood, I'm now a well-functioning person, highly educated and I have a professional career. My dispositions attract me to finish training as a psychotherapist one day (I’d love to be a sex therapist along the lines of the ‘sexual crucible approach to human differentiation’ - see the book ‘Passionate Marriage’). At the moment, I’m work at a think thank as a policy entrepreneur - shaping public debate on policy while also exploring the dark arts of influencing outside of the limelight.

I am single, but even in long-term relationships I remain nonmonogamous, sex and slut positive. I'm holding space for my person to enter my life, and in the meanwhile, enjoying the journey, living life.

To provide some more context, I was previously in a long term poly triad, so I am poly-capable though I generally lean more to generic 'open' relationships. Also, I am highly professional so am straight, classy and well-presented. I have 11 years of academia behind me, including science, which grounds me. I’m happy to talk about my previous relationship experiences and lessons learned, but fear not, I’m not running around falling in love with everyone or creating drama. What I am doing is owning my own sexual nature and needs, and one of them is sexual freedom and agency - having an intentional space to behave. And what I am looking for is connection, play, sexual pleasure, appreciation and expression, and to seek out what turns me on most: transgression (within safe, consensual and 'mana enhancing' parameters).

I’m adventurous and looking to connect with people who can be sex-positive friends with benefits, lovers, etc. I've been in three major relationships in the last 15 years, and they were characterised by me negotiating nonmonogamy with monogamous women - I've learnt it just doesn't work. I've learned my lesson not to attempt this. Compatibility is important. So I’m here to find playmates, friends, lovers, companions in crime that appreciate the love language of exploration, shared adventuring and playfulness (as discussed in the book 'Open Deeply'). Needless to say, I've been mainly a top in relationships - for those who care about kink.

I'm into connection, available for intimacy (though not seeking drama and respect other peoples spaces), happy with casual NSA experiences, and I'm a good conversationalist. I love to sexualise sex and make it hot, dirty and messy. I can be dominant or submissive. It depends on the person I am spending time with. I've got a rich fantasy life, a lewd mind and I like dirty talk, roleplay and making up hot stories and scenes. Last but not least, I like open sexual spaces: threesomes, watching and being watched. Seeing or dating couples has belonged to the highlight of my sexual journeys in life. I'm definitely voyeuristic and I love watching a girl that I care about and admire with others. I respect the people I play with.

With play partners I always look for (and I offer) the four things:
1. good judgment
2. being in working order (as a person)
3. GGG (good, giving, game)
4. emotionally mature