Update 13/3/25 (currently a work in progress!)

The short version:

• I’m a slim, fit 44yo NZ European guy based in Henderson, with a place of my own where we can play

• I’m polyamorous and primarily looking for either a nesting partner or for casual play with single women and couples

• I currently have one female poly partner and we play separately but are open to playing together. As a couple we’re interested in FMF, full swap, hotwifing, voyeurism, and exhibitionism.

• I’m open to all sorts of play whether kinky or vanilla- variety is the spice of life and I love to explore and try new things…

• I’m fun and passionate and love to please and be pleased.

• I’m super tactile and love to touch and kiss

• I go in to a lot more detail about each of these points in the long version!

The long version:

It’s been a while since I updated my profile here and in that time a lot has changed- consequently this profile is a work in progress! It’s going to be a bit wordy till I get sorted out, sorry! I’m also active on kink and ENM platforms under the same username and my profiles there are somewhat better organised so feel free to have a look and say hi!

I’m interested in having fun with passionate, fun, lovely people… Entirely casual with some, making friends with others… And- if the stars align- maybe something more if the right person comes along. At the current time I’m primarily looking for two types of interactions. On one hand I’m looking for a nesting partner to settle down and have a family with, exploring everything that sex, kink, ENM, swinging, and normal vanilla life have to offer together. On the other, I’m looking for casual, fun play with no commitments- and in many ways that’s what my profile here is most about. In the middle of that spectrum is also another category of relationship I engage in- long term partners and play partners with whom I have meaningful relationships. My dance card in that regard is currently full- there is only so much time in the day and I am unable to take on any additional commitments in that regard. In terms of casual play I’m looking to play either on my own or as a couple with one of my lovely, hot partners. We both have long ‘fuckit lists’ that were looking to explore with singles and couples, and love to explore and try new things.

If, like me, you’re looking for a nesting partner then keep reading all the way to the bottom or skip straight to the last section of this profile. There is a lot there that talks about my dreams in that regard- maybe they’re your dreams too? Either way, I’m not setting any expectations- just looking fun connections and seeing where life goes…

Play in general:

My interests are pretty broad, really… I love to experiment and explore, and to try new things. I love the variety, that journey of new experiences. I’m equally interested in passionate vanilla play or kinky fun- both are amazing if done well! On the kink side I’m a switch- though I’ve been more active in a dominant role lately- and I have lots of experience working with people new to kink. It’s a lot of fun giving someone new experiences and helping them explore in a nurturing, fun, relaxed manner!

I can be quite hedonistic and am very happy to engage in one-off play- that can be incredibly hot and exciting! But I also often form lasting friendships- I’ve certainly made some awesome play friends over the years as well as having had amazing one-off encounters… Apart from the friendship aspect it’s great to be able to take some time to intimately understand someone- their deepest dreams and desires, and learning all the things that do and don’t turn them on. And to then take that and make an amazing experience for them, turning those dreams and fantasies in to reality. It’s an amazing thing when you can read every expression, every flinch and moan, and know exactly what’s going through their head so you can build on those cues…

I want to make an effort for you- not just going through the motions, but to give you experiences that absolutely rock your world... I want to explore your body, keenly observing your every reaction as I learn what physical stimulation drives you crazy and then focusing on those things until you’re a quivering, sated mess... I want to learn your deepest darkest desires and fantasies and to make them happen for you... I want to be light and sensual if you like that, treating you like a lady as I pleasure you- using the tips of my fingers, my mouth and tongue to stimulate you, enjoying those lovely sensitive patches below your ears, your gorgeous breasts, or perhaps devouring you until your thighs are shaking violently around my ears... Or alternatively- if sensual isn’t your thing- to take you by the hair, bend you over and take you hard till I’m jerking wildly inside you, or perhaps giving you a hard fingering till you climax hard and drench my hand with your lovely juices... I want to dress up for you, to look hot and sexy whether you want a nice crisp suit or a naughty maid’s uniform... I want to be vanilla or kinky- dominant or submissive, both or neither, depending on what it is you crave... I want to remind you how hot you are and how constantly hungry I am for you, and to kiss you and play with you with such passion and energy that it proves I mean every word... And I want to weave all of that together in a great tapestry that constantly seduces your mind, body and soul... The price? It’s simple- this is not a one-way deal... All I ask is that you make the same effort for me too... Because the two hottest things in the world for me are (a) making your dreams become reality and (b) the fact you genuinely give a crap about my desires too and will do the same for me... The effort will be worth it for both of us! ;-)

I’m not too fussed about age or body type- I’m more interested in whether we click and have fun than anything so superficial... Attraction is important, of course, but it’s more than just skin deep... Central/West Auckland or the North Shore would be perfect- I’m open to other places, of course, but those will be the closest and easiest for me to get to (or for you to get to me). A good kisser is a must, someone who is passionate and loves to please and give pleasure as much as I do... It’s an awesome thing being able to turn someone on, make their fantasies a reality, fuel their lust and make them cum hard over and over, but it’s not a one way street, of course! I want to make that effort for you- to be nicely groomed and dressed, and to do all the things that drive you wild- and I’d love you to do the same for me... Kinky would be great, but isn’t essential- as I say passionate vanilla play is equally fun for me- as would a desire to try new things and generally get up to all sorts of mischief... My interests and experience are pretty broad so I’m open to most things- all you have to do is ask and the odds are I’ve done it or want to! I love to write so if you’re keen to flirt and drive each other crazy online in between play dates that would be cool, or even if you just want me to tell me how much I want you and what I want to do to you then I will be only too happy to oblige... And in person I’m super tactile- I’d love to explore your body and find all those sensitive erogenous zones which make you wriggle and writhe in ecstasy...

Nesting partner:

In the big picture I’d love to meet a nesting partner for an ENM relationship- someone to fall madly in love with, make a family with and start a family of our own… Always being there and having each other’s backs, but at the same time both free to explore all that love, kings and sex has to offer (doing so together, separately or both).

I want that picture perfect family- to own my own house with a garden and the proverbial white picket fence, with the sound of my kids’ laughter wafting through the window as they run around the lawn barefoot playing with the cats and dogs on a hot summer’s day… And when it rains I want to put on some music and curl up with our kids on the loving room floor to play board games, and then after dark to snuggle in to bed with you in my arms as we listen to the raindrops on the roof… I want to have friends over games and movie nights or for delicious fun dinners… And on other nights I just want to enjoy quiet time unwinding on our own blobbed in front of the TV or curled up with a good book. I want our gardens to be beautiful and full of vegetables and flowers, bees and butterflies- maybe with some chickens in the yard too… I want to travel the world and- closer to home- to go on random road trips. I want to go to shows and concerts- whether that be rocking out to the Foo Fighters or dressing up to go to the opera or a show- and to go out on sweet, romantic date nights. I want to love my job and to make a difference in my community, leaving the world a better place… To live life as a grown up but also with a childlike sense of enthusiasm and not forgetting to have fun. I want to be a great dad and fiercely, selflessly loyal to my family and those who I love. And I want to do all of that with someone special- a life of passion and romance and fun where we match perfectly and can be our most true, genuine selves… Someone to share all my life with the good and the bad… And to know we’ll always be there for each other and have each other’s backs 100%. And yes, there will be hard times and chores to do, but that’s ok becasue we’ll be doing them together. :-)

More to come…