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AShadeofBlack
12 hours ago
Straight Male, 48
0 km · Wellington

About

My photos are recent with many taken between May and June 2026.📷😁

I added emojis to summarise the points as I appreciate this is text heavy. Actions > Words, right?🙃

I’m currently single by choice, know what I want, and am not in the habit of disappointing others. 😉 I don’t come with emotional baggage, and people seem to think I’m easy to get along with and trustworthy. All dogs adore me, so I think that’s a pretty good reference. Recently I’ve even been wondering whether I’m Dog Jesus!🐾

Anyway, I was active on the kink scene in a past life and am looking at exploring new opportunities. I’m a natural leader (but not overly controlling, toxically masculine, etc.) and am definitely D over s if you are interested in that dynamic.😈

I’m not a switch, but do function like a normal person, so that trait isn’t apparent unless I choose to show it to someone who I think would like it and when I feel like I’d like to share that with them. Have to be respectful and situationally appropriate, right?🤔

I’m not one of those single guys that’s going to hit you all up with messages as I am respectful of space (even online). While I may message the odd person/couple, I’m comfortable with myself and where I’m at, and am mindful not to intrude. At times, I can be reserved; that isn’t a lack of confidence, but more just assessing the situation to ensure I’m comfortable with others and they’re comfortable with me. 🫡 I’m selective about who I reach out to, and hope you’ll appreciate it if I send you a message. 🙏🏼 Whether I initiate contact or not, remember you are still an amazing person! 🏆

**UPDATE: My initial gold membership has expired and I’m spending my time exploring existing, evolving connections. I’m looking for deeper, quality, ongoing connections rather than spreading myself too thin. I’ll restart a paid membership if these don’t work out. I’m still open to messages from women and couples who feel we have something truly special to offer one another. For single Bulls, thanks for the messages and I am happy to chat and form friendships, but please respect that I’m not bi or bi-curious so please stop asking for one on ones. I’m beginning to understand the pressure the ladies sometimes feel!

I’m straight, so primarily looking at playing with women, but absolutely open to couples. A regular partner who would like to join me with other couples would be amazing! And I’m open to getting to know anyone as long as you are healthy and respectful. 👩🏼‍❤️‍💋‍👨🏻

I have somewhat of a higher profile job so needless to say, discretion is a must. But that should always apply as that’s a basic, common courtesy. 🤫

I’m well educated (but still capable of making silly choices), well travelled (lived in 14 countries and have visited an additional 69), adore animals (not spider-sharks), and volunteer with men who are struggling, and who want to be better, healthier, safer men. I get a lot of satisfaction helping them make their homes safer and free of violence for their partners and children. 🌎🐻😇

I’m clean and safe (even if I can create a structured environment of adventure and the excitement of controlled risk), and have a HUGE… sense of humour, even if I’m not as funny as I sometimes think I am!🤣

Thank you for reading my profile. If you are wondering if you should reach out, any message will be greeted with warmth and politeness, and the fact you have made it this far probably gives the answer. 🙏🏼👍🏼

Seeking

Female
Couple
Female Couple
Age: 18 - 60
Distance: 150 km

Interests

Adult parties
Anal sex
B & D
Clubs and Parties
Dogging
Double Penetration
Exhibitionism
Fetishes
Gang bangs
Group sex
Living Abroad
Making videos
Oral sex
Outdoor sex
Phone sex
Rimming
Role play
S & M
Spanking
Straight sex
Threesomes

Vouches

Had a fantastic first meet with this gent and a lovely introduction to exploring a D/s dynamic. He had a whole range of toys laid out on the bed and talked me through each instrument, explaining what he intended to do with them. I felt like a kid in a toy store, with my curiosity getting the better of me. 😋 He was incredibly welcoming and even offered to fetch me a barista coffee on arrival, which on any given day is enough to make my panties fall off! 🤭 I also enjoyed his intellect and, well… intellectual tongue. 😉 I’ve been looking for a Top experienced enough and with the right leadership skills to guide me for a very long time, and I’m very excited to explore more. I’ll certainly be looking at clothes pegs differently from now on! 😏 I appreciated his firm hand when it needed to be firm and his oh-so-gentle touch when it needed to be gentle. A wonderful first experience, and I’m very much looking forward to seeing if I can earn yet another star on the sticker chart. 🙃

Ashadeofblack is a calm, cool and collected gentlemen with a bag of sultry tricks that can make magician envious. He is a consenting king. He doesn’t just say he will do something, he follows through, with determination and a wicked grin. I appreciated his firm hand which leaves his mark if you act out - which I do love to do. But he had me a begging mess, with a slow stroke that kept me going until I came. I guess I’m a good girl for him. He is big on aftercare - rather than a hit and quit so block out enough time to enjoy the banter, brazen sexcapades and cuddles/sweet words after. Xx