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Women that agree to meet up and never show...what's with tha
The practice is not specific to any particular Sex or couple.
Whilst completely unacceptable, it is a by product of the ease with which people can join this site and make contacts.
Often people join this site, find it thrilling and before you know it are in far deeper in the lifestyle than they anticipated.
This generally leads to a no show as it sounds like you experienced.
The other option is its some playing games.
Unfortunately this is difficult to eliminate being this is an open public access site.
It is definatlely a negative aspect but if you have a good screening process and dont just jump at the first opportunity that comes along, weeding out the tyre kickers can be quite easy.
Sexpert
Bloody Unicorns 
Goes both ways, the amount of guys who no show as well
Goes both ways, the amount of guys who no show as well Yes, but they don't txt to say they're not coming. They just fail to show up.
There might be some genuine reasons (NOT, 'I saw a colleague on the way here so decided to stop for a coffee with them instead'), but it looks like many are just either chickening out (ok, allowed, but TELL us), or are on here because they think it's a giggle to get people to go for nonexistent meetings.
I can tell you why most women don't turn up…
Its because they are males posing as women or couples, and frankly i still can't work out wether its a fetish thing or if its just for kicks.
Most genuine women (my self included ) turn up if we organise a meeting and if happy the other persons are genuine, problem is i have found men tend to like the chase but lazy with the follow through, hence i have been stood up many times, yet i make huge efforts to be there on time and ready.
In my opinion the few times a woman might not turn up, going on my own feelings, would be that the male has let something slip in one of the pre meeting texts that has made her nervous or changed her opinion on the guy, we all know how much a guy can play descent until he gets what he wants (of course there must be the odd female like that too, but far fewer).
I have had one occasion where the guy i was meeting for some play time by a lake, had accidentally sent me the text that was meant for his buddy, apparently he had organised his mate to come along as well…intentions were not made clear prior to meeting nor would i have agreed had they been, it certainly scared me enough to call it off as i still don't know what was planned…(now days i only play as a couple)
The other is family commitments, it would be fair to say that a large portion of swinging women have children, and as kids go they are an unpredictable factor, i have had kids fracture bones and sick vomiting kids only minutes before heading out for a sex meeting…
To prevent more stand ups, then more effort needs to be put into actually talking to persons by phone or cam, not just text, that way it sorts out the genuine persons.
Sites weeding out the pretenders by better means and peer pressure? must be a way?
We still get it now with couples, hand them the phone number and boom, silent no more chat excuses for Africa on why the wife can't talk on phone, we have now learnt that at least 90% of time thats cause its a guy been caught out.
mrs central otago
