My partner and I have found ourselves in difficult swinging situations on three different occasions. All three times have involved the male of the couple that we’re swinging with getting totally stoned and drunk before we get there. The female of these couples is usually not interested in playing. Even after talks online and arrangements. We give them a chance and work in with them. We’ll start playing ourselves and encourage them to play with each other and ensure them that we don’t need to swap if they don’t want to. But because the females are nervous or not interested in playing it drags the night out. We wait it out to see if things will change. Usually after a couple hours I will say to my partner that I want to leave or that I’m not comfortable anymore. He always agrees with me. However he feels unable to say anything to these couples so we can get out of there. He tells me that it’s rude to leave and says he doesn’t have a good enough excuse. This has happened every time. So we end up having to go through the whole experience. Which has included waiting for one guy to wake up from blacking out in the bathroom and coming to a while later. So I found myself having to suck it up and fuck this guy. His mrs didn’t do anything to stop it nor did my partner. On another of these occasions I’ve nearly been drowned in a spa pool while being fucked. My partner argues that he can’t watch me all the time and that I need to save myself. Last night was the third occasion where the male of the other couple was repeatedly pulling my head off my partners cock while I was giving him a blow job. My partner didn’t see any problem with that and let it carry on. I told him I was scared and he didn’t do anything about it. I ended up having to say to this couple that we needed to go. So neither them or us ‘finished’. To make matters worse we argued this morning about our inability to leave bad situations I do rely on him to take the lead and hope that he’ll protect me but he doesn’t seem to. I could step up and make us leave earlier from situations like these but I don’t want to ruin his chances of getting some pussy. We’re a jump in and fuck kind of couple and don’t like the meet beforehand stuff. We agreed that we need to choose better couples that with swing with. This afternoon he got me to jack him off with a flesh light and said he really wanted it because he didn’t get any pussy last night. It feels like a insult to injury. Feeling like a bit of a mess.
How do you protect each other in your own relationship?