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Marriage is certainly designed by society as a structure to fulfil some of our needs, but if you look at it, mostly financial needs. If you ask someone who has been married for years to the same person, they will say the reason they are married today would be financial security (it would be not wise to divorce), convenience/habit. No wonder so many people go into swinging.
I suspect that if money didnt' exist and we didnt have to work to survive, marriages would seaze to exist the way we know them now. Being with one person for the rest of your life goes against the fundamental need of humans for variety, just like we can see it in the animal kingdom.
Another aspect to it of course is Christianity where it is morally wrong to desire, let along have sex with someone but your spouse. It is so deeply engrained for many people and eventhough the trends are changing, there is still a lot of judgment towards swingers.
Why do you need to force yourself to get excited about someone you have been for many years?
That question is very hot for many married men. Believe me it is just as bad for women... Wouldn't be nice if we only had to commit to someone for 2-3 years? How exciting that time would be?
I understand this whole question about kids and the need to suppport them, but if we put the money issue aside, and if we say you only need to look after them in terms of teaching them and love them, then i don't see why people wouldn't continue looking after their kids even after they go their separate ways.
This is my take on the world after the banking system collapses and resource based economy comes in play (after a bit of reshuffle:-))
I'm interested to hear your thoughts.
Marsha
P.S. "Marriage is betting someone half your shit that you will love them forever" (author uknown)
