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read the reply on how dose a discret couple find discret fun... how does a discret 'dreaded ' single man find some long term partners?

I mean I don't like being single.. but how to find a lady who would enjoy this world with me?

Only other option... and one that excites me is to join a couple.... lost

Hello everyone. This has taken my wife and I a number of years to get to this point. Married. Happy. Looking for something. Not into singles at this point. Having enough of a drama boy on girl, let alone thinking about one other. We are excited to try something more. Just don't know what more is. Help?

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Hello everyone. This has taken my wife and I a number of years to get to this point. Married. Happy. Looking for something. Not into singles at this point. Having enough of a drama boy on girl, let alone thinking about one other. We are excited to try something more. Just don't know what more is. Help?

We are in the exact same boat As you

It's a serious struggle to actually find couples who are actually here to meet up and push boundaries

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We live in Auckland, so we were lucky enough to visit CCK, which is a good introduction to this world

Also, we talk to couples on here and let them know we are looking for couples we can hang out with and it's not all about the sex. Though the sex is nice

We have noticed some couples can be quite intense and seem to only want one time hookups, which isn't what we are looking for

I guess the best advice is make sure your profile explains what exactly you are looking for and make sure any couple you may potentially meet is on the same page

Meeting socially first is a must for us. So we can make sure we all vibe and also we need to have attraction too, but personality is essential

We had an incredible first time last night! 😻 Dipped our toes in the virtual pool and it was so fuckin hot! 🔥Had a beautiful brown man controlling my vibrator and making me cum while I sent him sexy moaning audios, hearing how wet my pussy was for him made him so hard, we sent pix and videos, all from the comfort of our own home. 💦 It was perfect! 😻👌🏼 Watching him cum for me was so fuckin sexy 🫦 Hubby enjoyed watching me fucking myself for another man, so was the perfect first step for us.

Afterwards we checked in with each other and discussed what worked and importantly what didn’t and then finished in the wee morning hours fucking each other. 🥰❤️‍🔥

Thought we’d share this to help other like minded people like us to give it a try but are unsure how to start.😘

We’re both looking forward to our next virtual playtime 💖💥💦

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We had an incredible first time last night! 😻 Dipped our toes in the virtual pool and it was so fuckin hot! 🔥Had a beautiful brown man controlling my vibrator and making me cum while I sent him sexy moaning audios, hearing how wet my pussy was for him made him so hard, we sent pix and videos, all from the comfort of our own home. 💦 It was perfect! 😻👌🏼 Watching him cum for me was so fuckin sexy 🫦 Hubby enjoyed watching me fucking myself for another man, so was the perfect first step for us.

Afterwards we checked in with each other and discussed what worked and importantly what didn’t and then finished in the wee morning hours fucking each other. 🥰❤️‍🔥

Thought we’d share this to help other like minded people like us to give it a try but are unsure how to start.😘

We’re both looking forward to our next virtual playtime 💖💥💦

Sounds like a heck of a lot of fun, and that it was navigated well! Great to see you enjoyed it, and that it had all the desired sexy outcomes you had hoped (and had fun together afterwards as well) 😀

New to this and looking for anything in Christchurch, keen for anything, threesomes, orgy, gangbang, or just one on one hook ups

We are new here and I must say we are finding it rather difficult to set up play dates we are enjoying chatting with others

I am new also and find the no replies even if it is a no frustrating. I always reply with a interested or not interested to be polite.

Finding it hard to meet up with anyone post most days lots of people looking but very little messages even when profiles match I guess to many males or I'm to ugly lol anyways will keep trying

Not sure if this is the right place to ask questions or not, newbie here. Am completely overwhelmed by messages in my inbox box and wondered what to do or how to manage that? Also some single or married men who are just straight to pictures or asking really intimate questions and it’s uncomfortable as I’m a people first person. Any help or advice and is it ok to not reply to people? I’m a kind person (I can say no) but the admin is too much to cope with at this stage. I have blocked a few outright because it’s crossed the line for me and I prefer actual social skills first .. but worry what happens of if I come across them later on and won’t know! Ughhh overthinking … help me

Totally worth asking on here, and as good a place is any! Sorry you're finding it overwhelming - it seems to be quite a common occurrence from other people we've talked to sadly. And yes, as a guy I find it really frustrating that a lot of guys don't have any social skills or understanding (at least in my opinion) of how to respectfully approach a lady on here (I was on here as a single male for a few years before my partner and I got together, so I have some experience of that 'side' of things). I would highly suggest that even if you're looking for single men, that you don't actively say you're looking for them (which may reduce some of the influx!). The other thing you could do is to block all men from messaging you, which will drastically reduce the amount of messaging incoming! I'm not 100% sure, but I think that if you message someone first that they can reply (even if you have a 'block' in place) but if anyone (admin?!) are more knowledgeable on this aspect to clarify, that would be awesome. Also, could be worth trying @Sweetsomething? We also would both say that you absolutely don't have to respond to anyone at all - just because they've messaged you don't automatically entitle them to a reply (even if that feels like the 'right' thing to do - which is certainly polite, but if you only have a few messages a day... you have to be selective!). If people are approaching you in a way that makes you uncomfortable, then that's a red flag straight away, and they won't be worth your time or effort to pursue/reply to, as it's clear they're not "on the same level" if that makes sense. And there will be people who'll message politely and genuinely, and they're the ones who will (hopefully) put in the effort and make you feel comfortable. There are some awesome people on here, though sadly finding them can be tricky - but when you make good connections, the outcomes can be totally worth it! Hope that helps reassure you and has some useful pointers/ suggestions!

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Am completely overwhelmed by messages in my inbox box and wondered what to do or how to manage that?

men who are just straight to pictures or asking really intimate questions and it’s uncomfortable

Is it ok to not reply to people?

Nobody here is entitled to your time or energy.

Don't feel obliged to answer any message youre not actively interested in. No response is a response, even if its not the one they wanted.

If they send something rude, offensive or unwanted then blocking may be the way to go.

There's nothing we can do about those folk who create new profiles to try again, just apply the same screening criteria over every profile.

Kiwiswingers is not the same experience for single men as for single women.

There are some fab folk here, good luck!

I'm new to and yes it can seem very overwhelming, I reply to those who start of with polite introduction. Ignore anyone who doesn't respect you or your boundaries. Have fun exploring as its a whole new world out there for us @sweetsomething, Those who don't read my profile properly don't get response either as I'm not paid member so can't reply to them on here.

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I'm new to and yes it can seem very overwhelming, I reply to those who start of with polite introduction. Ignore anyone who doesn't respect you or your boundaries. Have fun exploring as its a whole new world out there for us @sweetsomething, Those who don't read my profile properly don't get response either as I'm not paid member so can't reply to them on here.

Well said, and that's all great advice It's frustrating to us that messaging for non-paid members is so restrictive - it makes exploring on here much more difficult than we think it should be for more equal opportunities on here! Still, your approach - replying to those who are polite, reading your profile etc - we think is a great one.