What an important question this seems to be, and how delicate it is. It creates a lot of interest and presumably a lot of insecurity, too. Is it true that big cock is best? Do all women want big cock? Do women lie when they say ‘size doesn’t matter’? I want to offer you my honest impressions as a woman who had the joy of sampling a few different cocks.
First, I want to differentiate between length and thickness. A dear girlfriend of mine once said that she does not like long cock. It hurts when it pounds against her cervix. I have to say that I agree. I love being pounded and taken hard, but when he is too long, it does hurt me and that’s not much fun. The only way I can truly enjoy a long cock is when I am in control. I have to be on top and move slowly. Then it can stimulate me gently deep inside (my cervix, A-spot, and O-spot) and that feels great, not painful.
When it comes to thickness, it is different for me. I have not had a cock that is too thick. It is a great feeling to be stretched and filled out. I love a fat cock that is not too long.
Did I have good experiences with guys who have smaller and thinner cocks? Oh yes, absolutely. Sometimes they even blew me away. Those guys had some tricks up their sleeve and they didn’t seem to rely on their cock alone. (I have the secret suspicion that guys with big cocks tend to belief that their manhood is all that’s needed to be a good lover. Come on big guys, tell me, isn’t that so?) Instead, the blew-me-away-small-cock-guys understood that us women have our secret pleasure spots that can be touched in ways that don’t need a big cock. Or more precisely, these guys knew how they can make a woman feel better than a big cock alone can. This is about skill and technique and the willingness to experiment. I can squirt in pleasure with a small cock when it hits my G-spot. It’s a different angle that can do that, a special position, pushing against the vaginal wall instead of sliding along it. Perhaps a thick cock could not even do that angle.
The best sex with guys I have had was never with a big cock. It was with guys who had small or average cock sizes. Perhaps they have the feeling that they need to put in extra effort to make up for their smaller size, I don’t know. But I think it is exactly that extra effort that makes a huge difference. A guy who knows a woman’s different pleasure spots can give her immense pleasure, regardless of his size. A hard cock is not even needed. In my experience, skilled fingers can be hugely pleasurable. A guy (or woman) who knows how to treat a woman’s pleasure spots inside with adept fingers can give her delights that a cock simply cannot. The steady rubbing of the A-spot with one’s fingertip, for example, is more exquisite for a woman than the pressure from the cock that sometimes touches it on moving in and out. I had the blessing to experience – first on myself (lucky me), then passing it on to other women – that skilled fingers can give her an experience that she never had before. Add a skilled tongue on her clit and the intensity will multiply.
Despite my love for skilled fingers, I still appreciate a good cock, don’t get me wrong. It is beautiful to experience that pleasure together at the same time. But big cock (especially if it comes with ego) is not my first choice.
Yet, I still like looking at them. It is my fantasy that takes me to the imagination of the great pleasure of being filled out, even if that pleasure is not necessarily realistic. I wonder if it is women with imaginations like mine that give pics with big cocks lots of thumbs up. I also wonder if women who swear by big cock just did not have the luck to be with someone who can show them what else is possible.
So guys, if you want to be a better lover, regardless of your size, and if you want to get those genuine vouches of adoration here on KS, I encourage you to do your research and to find a woman (or two) who is willing to give you honest feedback and guidance on how her body works. In my experience, it is about finding out what works for most women and then to experiment more with the one you are currently with to find out what she likes specifically. Her pleasure will be yours. Have fun everyone.
