Sorry this is my gripe.
I really HATE, the set messages that people send. Seriously guys do you think I am even going to look at your profile when you can't even write your own message.
Sorry but they drive me nuts, and if I could block them I would

PHEW feel better now

HAPPY SWINGING

Seriously guys write a personal message to us all

yeah not a big fan of the wink system either..
cant really blame people for using a function of the site but just wish they would change the default message before they used it.

Another little beef is when some of us do bother to compose an email and send to others and get no response at all.

If a person has taken the time to send a message a quick reply saying NO would suffice rather that just ignoing totally.

A little courtesy being asked for thanks.

although I responded to someone who did that and they admitted that they were new to the site and didn't know what an advert was. I thought that was a relevant comment and showed the guy wasn't just lazy.

I have to admit, it is kinda confusing and perhaps the word could be changed to something like "about me"?

There really is no good way to do this
Its part and parcel of being the rarer fairer sex on this site.

Speak to just about anyone of the female persuasion and they all get pestered by people wanting to chat. Its especially prevalent for those on cam.

3 Things

1) If they are too impatient to wait until you have the time to answer them, do you really want to talk to them anyway?

2) You have the facilities of Authd whispers so that you can answer those you want too first without your screen filling up with whisper tabs.

3) If someone is being far too pushy with regards to being answered, let a mod know or report their profile. People come to this site to comfortably meet new people and have a lot of fun in the process. Pushy obnoxious people don't fit in to that model and need to be reminded of such. Your letting us know about people doing this will help us to maintain a fun site to come too.

Hope that helps

Jace
JnA

What bothers me is the constant stream of straight single males who whisper without asking in the main room first.

I have clearly stated in my profile that they are not what im looking for (dont get me wrong i love SSGs)but thats not what im on here to find .

It tells me one of two things
Either they have not bothered to read my profile
Or they are just ignorant .
Also i dont want to whisper to people who dont have photos uploaded , this is mainly to weed out those who are just surfing , it takes alittle effort to upload a few pics so if they cant be bothered , im not interested..

LOL thats the gripe over , great site and so many great people